You Can’t Fail At Love

I know you already know this but incase you need reminding..

There's nothing special about you that excludes you from love.

I used to flip flop between... 

1. believing I was no good at love and relationships, 

and 

2. Deciding it was the man's fault.

So I set about trying to mould him into the man I wanted and felt upset, angry and let down when he didn't fulfill my expectations. 

All of this flip flopping felt awful.... "there's something wrong with him....There's something wrong with me"

The world changing thing I decided to believe instead is "there's nothing wrong"

Nothing wrong with me and Nothing wrong with him.(and you get to choose to be with him or not)

I feel angry. And there's nothing wrong.

I feel sad. And there's nothing wrong.

I feel lonely.  And there's nothing wrong.

This normalises our feelings as being a natural and expected part of being a sensitive, deep, vulnerable female human being available for love. 

And this helps us feel clear to choose whether to be with a particular man or not.

So today I want to remind you of something I told myself..

You can't fail at love darling, you either keep going and keep growing .... or you give up.

Simple.

When I was dating I decided no matter how many times I felt heart broken, no matter how many times I was ghosted I promised myself I wasn't going to give up. Even if I didn't meet my man until I was 82, I wasn't going to give up!

(Luckily I met him in my late 40's)

Love you

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