Spot The Dating Red Flags To Run From

I want you to be skilled in spotting the dating red flags so today I'll teach you how to spot the signs to use as a guide to walk away from fast.

Sign #1: He seems more ‘all about himself’ than he is about you.

You may get the feeling that he’s there for what he can get from you, this is a subtle gut feeling.

You can trust your gut feelings!

As a woman, your gut feeling is your Birthright, and connecting with your deep gut feeling is going to give you the most information.

So if you get this feeling that he is all about what he can get from you…. your time, your sympathy, your attention…maybe he's telling you how hard his life is, how hard his relationships or divorce have been for him.

Is he only sharing about himself?

An emotionally mature relationship-ready man is going to want to get to know you, he's going to

show interest in you, who you are, and what you want in a relationship.

So just notice if you get this vibe that he's looking for what he can get from you.

Sign #2: He's overly affectionate very early on.

This can be physical affection or verbal affection.

If a man is jumping to the physical before an emotional connection has been established then that is a huge red flag that he could be just be looking for something casual.

It doesn't necessarily mean he's ‘toxic’ or he's a bad man, just that he’s looking for a physical connection over an emotional connection.

Even if a guy says he's looking for a relationship…. if he's jumping straight into that verbal affection, straight into physical affection, it should make you wonder whether or not he's got the emotional maturity to go the distance in a relationship.

He may also be offering you gifts very early on, future planning saying things like

‘Oh my gosh you know we've only had one date but you're amazing you're someone I could see myself marrying’.

Maybe he's already talking about going on trips together or he's jumping hugely ahead, promising you things or offering you expensive gifts.

If you are looking for a long-term relationship then this is a sign he's not taking the time to just get to know you.

Maybe he's falling for an image of you and you really don't want a man to put you so high up on a pedestal because then you become somebody that's almost like a fictional character for him and the realness of you is really not going to land with him.

He will start to get upset when he sees the realness of you and your imperfections.

In an emotionally mature, healthy long-term relationship our imperfections will come out; and we need our partner to be accepting of that and to be able to handle the difficult conversations and not just be there for the good times.

So all of this ‘jumping in so quickly’ is emotionally immature behavior which does not bode well for a long-term relationship that can go the distance.

Sign #3: He doesn't respect your boundaries and your feelings from early on.

Maybe you feel more comfortable meeting locally on early dates (which I would really want you to do) and maybe he gets annoyed or tries to convince you to travel to him or to meet up late in a bar you don’t know.

Maybe he tries to convince you when you've said you don't want any another glass of wine or you don't want anything more to drink, he just goes and buys you another one, minimizing your concerns.

That would tell me that he’s somebody who is not willing to cherish your feelings he's not someone who is going to be great, long term partnership material.

These are just a few signs, but knowing them will help you stop second-guessing yourself and minimizing your gut feelings because as women we can be really good at second-guessing ourselves. ‘Oh well, maybe he didn't mean it like this maybe I'm overreacting’

When you put these different signs together with your gut feeling, this awareness is like being your own coach.

It’s important to remember.. whilst dating your safety, security and comfort are paramount.

• You can decide not to meet a guy again.

• You can decide not to meet a guy even for the first time if you get enough of a gut feeling.

• You can just decide you don’t want to (and you don't even have to explain it to yourself or anyone else. )

Sure, let him know. I'm all for compassionate dating, let him know you don't want to see him but you don't have to justify it to yourself.

If it just doesn't feel right that's enough.

I really want you to feel confident and strong when you're dating.

I want what I'm saying to inspire you to keep dating and not give up so that you can get the relationship you want.

Love Naomie

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