I ‘Marie Kondo’d’ my books this weekend
I took all my books and piled them up around me.
A pile of plays, a pile of poetry, fiction, personal development, cookery……….
I only wanted to keep the ones that sparked joy, sparked a memory and reminder of who I am.
The deep, wise, interested, passionate Naomie who would soak up literature, plays and poetry into her bones and her cells, move her heart, fill her up.
When I held in my hand the books I’d kept because people had given them to me, or I felt like I ‘should’ read them, they sparked guilt and felt heavy.
I don’t want to feel guilty and heavy!
As I practised the Marie Kondo method It became obvious which ones were keepers and which had to go.
Which books made me feel more deeply ME, and which made me feel ‘less than’.
Holding the books that sparked excitement in my belly, that made me feel still and full inside. I knew without words they were keepers.
With my single clients I’ve been playing with the idea of Minimalist Uncluttered Dating.
This starts with a dating profile or manifesto that’s clear and intentional.
One that expresses what she wants and also (controversially) says what she doesn’t want.
We think that being super clear and saying what you don’t want on a profile, or saying that you want to be married will narrow the pool of men and put guys off… and yes it will!
We want it to!
The idea we’re playing with is decluttering the dating process so the guys you have coming into your orbit are commitment minded, reliable and solid.
If your desire is marriage and family we want to quickly disqualify the men who want a casual uncommitted thing.
If you’re chronically sea sick so hate sailing… write that! Lets declutter all the guys who want a partner to sail the world with.
Maybe you only want to date guys in a 40 mile radius, you’re allergic to cats, you’re bored of dating app messages that say ‘hey babe’. You’re high maintenance when it comes to affection and communication….you can be upfront about it.
When you declutter your home it’s feels easy to find what you’re looking for, and it you have more of what you love around you.
The same goes for dating.
Minimalist dating works because it feels less effortful. Dating feels uncluttered and easy.
No more exhausted and burnt out for us! This is where you get to feel loved and adored in the best relationship of your life.
Love
Naomie
p.s If you want help with the dating process the next step is to book a free call
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