The Real Way To A Man's Heart. (and the 3 ways most of us try that don't work)
I was speaking with a man a few days ago about the way to a man’s heart, he shared about a past relationship he had and admitted that he wasn’t really that into her BUT she was an amazing cook, she’d regularly cook for him and they had great sex. So he stayed.. eventually leaving her when her behaviour demonstrated a need for more connection with him.
All she got was a guy who wasn’t committed to her but was happy to take what she was giving him!!
Oh this feels so familiar!
I’ve been there and if you’ve experienced this then you’ll know how awful it feels, and how it can bring up needy insecure feelings that come when a man’s energy isn’t coming towards you.
Sadly she was using two of the wrong paths to love I share about below.
Today I’m sharing with you my video all about the Real way to a man’s heart and The Three Ways That DON’T work!
The majority of women try to get to love through one of the three paths that don’t work -Through The Mind, The Body or The Spirit.
A Mind Connection. This is the logical, intellectual path where you’ve things in common and can talk politics, philosophy, environmental issues, at best you’ll have a buddy, a business partner, a good friend for stimulating conversation. And that mind path can also be us thinking we must do lots for a man to keep him, “if i cook great meals for him he’ll see what a great catch I am.” This is a head based strategy.
A Body/physical connection. You may have great sex, play sports together, even be dance partners, If you’re looking for love through a physical connection you’ll certainly get a friends with benefits situation but this way of connecting alone will not inspire the love, devotion and cherishing you want....
A Spiritual connection. Where you share religious and spiritual beliefs and are kind and good to one another.
The mind, body and spirit connections are all beautiful parts of a healthy relationship but they are not the glue that binds us together in a deeply romantic way.
You could be well read and articulate, have hot curves and wear sexy clothes, pray or meditate every day, and without the final crucial element I share in my video, you’ll not attract and keep the kind of deep connected love where you feel seen, known, cherished and adored. You’ll always feel there’s something missing, and if you’re anything like i was you may start feeling needy, as your needs for a deeper connection and commitment aren’t met.
We’re taught that we should be constantly improving ourselves to attract love, my approach is to help you come back to your true feminine nature, we take away the ‘shoulds’ and learn to express who we really are to connect in a beautiful deep real way with our people.
I’m here for you darling, exactly as you are.
Warmest love Naomie